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A Pastor’s Reflections: Fire and Ice

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As a child I can remember there were massive differences between my maternal and paternal grandparents. My paternal grandparents hardly ever said a cross word at one another—I don’t recall them ever having a fight. Maybe they were good actors, or maybe I didn’t visit them enough and they fought…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: Don’t Pull the Trigger Too Fast

VFT
One of the church’s biggest problems is divorce. I can’t say that I’ve seen any documented statistics, but one of the mantras I’ve heard over the years is that the divorce rate is the same inside and outside the church. About half of all marriages end in divorce. I have…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: Poker Face

VFT
One of the most important elements of being a good pastor is maintaining a good poker face when you’re counseling, that is, showing no reaction. I promise, chances are you will sit down with people in your church and hear of some crazy things. One couple told me that the…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: Data Gathering

I think when people imagine what it’s like to receive pastoral counseling, they envision their pastor or elder giving them wonderful advice. And, to a certain extent, this is true. When you have a problem and need advice, your pastor or elder should be able to give you sound counsel.…
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