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A Pastor’s Reflections: Straight from the Source

VFT
I can remember in seminary dueling with a number of different critics regarding Reformed theology. God’s sovereignty was a regular topic of debate. For the record, I did not attend a Reformed seminary, hence truths taken for granted at Reformed institutions were not widely accepted at my school. The subjects…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: Freud or Paul?

VFT
In the twentieth and twenty-first century, Christian counseling has taken off like wildfire. Seminaries that once saw preparing men to be pastors as their bread and butter now offer counseling degrees. Let me state up front, I’m not opposed to the study of counseling, psychology, physiology, or the ways in…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: Never Tell Them To Leave

VFT
One of the most tempting things in the pastorate is to tell someone they should leave the church. At first glance, such a sentiment might seem totally out of character for a pastor, but there are some factors can make it sound like reasonable counsel. What should you do when…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: The Benefits of Membership

VFT
Are some people more special than others? As the pastor, to whom do you owe your time? These are important questions because you will have people pulling on your calendar and schedule and you’ll have to decide to whom, among the many people you encounter, you should give your time.…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: How Do I Know If I’m Called?

VFT
One of the regular questions I receive is, “How do I know whether I’m called to the pastorate?” It would be one thing if God sent telegrams from heaven with your name on it—discerning a call would be a whole lot easier. Did you get the telegram or not? But…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: The Basics

VFT
In my years as a pastor I would regularly make home visits with the families in my church. I did my best to get into every household at least once per year. This sounds like a very infrequent visiting schedule, but when a church has thirty or more households and…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: The Secret Service

VFT
The pastorate can be an interesting vocation because you end up interacting with a lot of different types of people. In my pastorate I have met business people, former professional athletes, homemakers, fighter pilots, millionaires, scholars, politicians, and the like. I’m always intrigued and enjoy meeting people from all walks…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: Care for Single Women

VFT
Pastoral visitation is perhaps one of the lesser-appreciated and practiced ministry responsibilities. Pastors don’t realize how important it is to visit with members of their congregations to encourage, get to know, and shepherd them. People in the church often think that such visits, if they occur, are an intrusion. “Why…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: Phoning Ahead

VFT
During my pastorate I encountered my fair share of people who did not appreciate my ministry or the church for one reason or another. That’s fine and to be expected. Whether it’s my preaching, the church’s supposed unfriendliness, or a host of other reasons, people can and do leave churches.…
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A Pastor’s Reflections: Never Speak Ill of Your Children

VFT
When I first contemplated entering the pastorate, I never realized that sometimes the church can be an ugly place. In fact, St. Augustine is reported as saying, “The church is a whore, but I must love her anyway because she is my mother.” The church can be filled with anger,…
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